LINGERIE OF THE WEEK

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Allegra

Allegra collection seduces in sensual Swiss filigree all-over embroidery with soft satin-look straps and bindings. Not to mention utterly indulgent diamante bows

COLOURS AVAILABLE

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Black    Rouge   Butterscotch

SIZES
Vertical Seam Bra: N9,860 – 32-38 C 30-38 D, DD,E,F,FF 30-36 G
Side Support Bra: N10,353 – 30-40 D,DD,E,F,FF 30-38 G, GG
Brief: N5,250 – XS-2XL
Short: N4,746 – XS-2XL
Brazilian Thong: N4,820 – XS-XL
Suspender Belt: N6,560 – S-XL

Lingerie is not porn.

 

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“I love this post as soon as I read it but I didn’t really think I had to repost it until I was told by my bank that they were reluctant to work with The Lingerie Company because we sell Underwears. As women, living outside the west especially, we have been lectured by mothers, fathers, aunties and sisters that the feminine things are unsightly and unbecoming of women to show off. These are all lies. Be proud to a women, feel gorgeous in your beautiful lingerie. We hope you enjoy this post as much as we did” Love, Whispers nigeria x

About a year ago, while trying to get some work done on the train from Seattle to Portland, I was startled to discover that a couple of my favorite shopping websites, namely Bare Necessities and HerRoom, were blocked for being “pornographic.” Now just to be clear, I both understand and am completely on board with restricting access to sexually explicit material in public spaces. There are no private seats on the train to Portland, and no one should be exposed to pornography without their consent (least of all children). But I don’t think it really hit me until that moment that many people view lingerie as something akin to porn, and that specifically, sites like Bare Necessities and HerRoom (which, let’s face it, are pretty boring as lingerie websites go) are equivalent with porn.“How absurd is it,” I thought, “that, for women, buying underwear is an ‘adult activity?’”

In the 12 months since, I’ve thought a lot about how lingerie is minmized in the fashion world. Yes you have your Victoria’s Secret and your Agent Provocateur, but generally speaking, the lingerie dialogue is limited to just 3 main topics: bra fit, shapewear, and how lingerie is ruining the lives of girls and making it impossible for them to become doctors. The rich, complex world of intimate apparel – the fashion of it, the history of it, the economics of it – is narrowed to less than a handful of “acceptable” topics, with everything else deemed “too sexual.” And I believe that stance has a profound effect on how women, both younger women and older women, see and relate to their bodies.

First of all though, let me just say that this article has nothing to do with being anti-porn or anti-sex. As a matter of fact, I don’t think the ethics of porn has anything to do with this particular discussion. And, of course, I have zero interest in vilifying sex; if lingerie makes your bedroom life better, more power to you. Rather, I want to talk about why lingerie is always assumed to be sexual, and what that means for women’s bodies. And yes, I’m aware that women are not the only consumers of lingerie, but I believe the specific kind of sexualization I’m talking about here happens almost exclusively to women.

As a lingerie blogger and, more importantly, as a consumer of lingerie, I firmly believe that intimate apparel, as the name implies, is a deeply personal form of attire.  It can be an entirely valid means to self-discovery and self-expression, and for some people, their underwear is the only place they get to truly be who they are and wear what they want. That is a powerful thing, and it makes me sad that the topic is almost always suppressed in favor of easier, more “socially appropriate” ways of discussing lingerie.

Of course, chances are that if you’re a regular Lingerie Addict reader, I’m preaching to the choir. TLA is a place to talk about the fashion of intimate apparel with a smattering of social commentary, but we’re constantly bumping up against the walls of censure and censorship. From the little things, like emails from readers who wonder what my family think of my “lifestyle,” to larger things, like being disinvited from programs or opportunities because the content of my blog is “offensive,” I am constantly reminded that lingerie is a special case. There’s room to talk about it terms of pure practicality (bras and Spanx) or pure sexuality (either as a bedroom aid or an assault upon our youth), but not much room for any nuance or subtlety between those positions. It’s as strange to me as if the conversation on shoes was limited to orthotic sandals and fetish heels. Obviously, there’s a lot more to choose from in the world of footwear than those two things!

Now I’m sure some will argue that lingerie is different because it’s worn directly on the body, right next to the skin. Specifically, it’s worn on a woman’s body, and even more specifically over areas like the breasts and genitals. And I can understand having a certain delicacy about private areas. But what I don’t understand is the titillation that’s automatically attached to women’s underwear in a way that’s not attached to men’s. Or rather, I should say I do understand it, but I don’t like it.

To assume that lingerie is always about sex ignores the role women have, the role womenshould have, in determining what their attire means to them. It reminds me of how, historically, “good” women had to avoid makeup, lest they be seen as “loose” women (a stigma I don’t believe has entirely gone away yet, though it is better) or how a woman in pants was seen as scandalous and shocking and “manlike.” It’s taken for granted now that cosmetics and trousers can have multiple meanings, but lingerie hasn’t achieved that status yet.

When intimate apparel is seen as something that exists primarily for sex, it becomes “vulgar,” and, by extension, the bodies wearing it become “vulgar” as well. All of a sudden, an exposed bra strap, a visible pantyline, or the slightest hint of a nipple becomes a disgrace. The body itself is stigmatized, and that stigma has huge consequences. I’ve had so many conversations with women who don’t even know the most basic things about their own breasts and genitals. And that kind of shameful ignorance results in damaging myths, from our idea of what a “normal” or “average” breast looks like to the myth that bras cause breast cancer. A climate where women’s bodies are seen as a problem is a climate that encourages women to be ignorant about their bodies.

Lingerie is not porn. Women should be able to talk about their bodies, to share photos of their bodies, to speak about their bodies, in editorial, artistic, or health-related contexts without being told that what they’re doing is equivalent to sex work. And again, there’s nothing wrong with sex or sex work, but self-determination matters. Women have the right to decide which communities they want to be a part of, and women should have the right to exert some say in how their bodies are perceived. We should feel comfortable talking about our bodies publicly without having to worry about being involuntarily turned into sex objects.

The solution here isn’t to resign ourselves to, “This is the way it’s always been and always going to be.” Rather it’s to discuss why. When someone says lingerie is “nasty,” what are they saying? When someone says I should be ashamed for running this site, what do they mean? When lingerie is seen as equivalent to porn and lingerie models to pornographic actresses, what’s the underlying context? Does lingerie always have to have erotic intent? Or is there the potential for something more? For a broader, deeper conversation? Let’s decouple the concept of “decency” from lingerie, and, in the process, let’s stop shaming the bodies of people who wear it.

What do you think about the lingerie is not porn question? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Reposted from The Lingerie Addict

Accessorise with your bra… and PRODUCT REVIEW: The Salsa Bra!

Accessorise with your bra or any lingerie for that matter! 

In the words of Beyoncé, if you’ve got it flaunt it. In today’s world, we (by which I mean both men and women) can no longer afford to think of utility above style. Whether you are an A or K cup, there are gorgeous & great fitting bras available in all styles and sizes for every woman. 

What’s the perk of wearing beautiful lingerie that no one will see? Well, besides the boost in confidence (according to scientific research), you can now tastefully show off your lingerie. 

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Today, I’m wearing the Salsa Bra in red, yes red, with a white chiffon blouse with a bow in front. I have opted not to wear a slip under my blouse but added a grey pencil skirt (to mute the red with minimal contrast), lovely red heels (to match my bra) and finished off with pearl stud earrings and a watch. I can’t seem to get a good picture for you but will try harder.

The Salsa Bra, I must say that I love it. The fit is great, it covers my entire boobs (I’m a 36H!) and as soon as I put it on and fastened it, I feel my boobs standing at attention, immediately lifting the weight off my back. Because of the nature of the cups, I must warn that this bra is not ideal for low necklines especially if you are not accessorising with your bra. Besides this, the bra is very comfortable and the wide band around the back smoothes out my folds (otherwise the job of a High Waist Control Brief). Although the straps are a little wide for my taste, I must say it sits very comfortably on my shoulders and it’s certainly not digging in at all.

I hope this review has been very helpful. Questions and comments are welcome and appreciated.

7 Types of Bras Every Woman Should Own

In recent times, more women (and men, must believe!) are paying close attention to the type and quality of lingerie they wear. Nowadays, I’ve go to the point whereby feeling good on the inside is just as important, if not more important than looking good on the outside.

From padded to push-up, from nursing to strapless, we will explore a wide range of bra options to let you know what you need in your bra drawer.

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We can all agree that bras can be necessary evils of sort… especially when statistics show that over 90% of women wear the wrong bra size. From the A cup, all the way to K, our boobs can all use that extra support. The same way we have our collection of different shoes for different occasions, our bra drawer needs to include more than one type of bra. 

1) Everyday Bra
Like the name implies, this is a typical bra you wear everyday. It may come with or without seams. The most important thing is for it to provide the necessary support and still be super comfortable.  
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Faye Plunge Bra, by Fantasie – N6.850 only at whispers-ng.com

2) Convertible Bra
This is a bra with modifiable straps that can be altered into different styles (halter, racer-back, one-shoulder or even strapless). This bra is very versatile and especially necessary when wearing tank tops, blouses with thin straps or strapless outfits. 

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Smoothing Black Moulded Strapless Bra, by Freya – N8,220 at whispers-ng,com


3) T-shirt Bra. 
Also called Contour bra, this bra comes with moulded seamless cups. It is so designed to be almost invisible under clothing, even the most form fitting t-shirts. It maintains breast shape whether on or off thus giving your breasts a great pre-determined shape.  No bra lines, no nipple bulges. Amazing right?

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Rebecca Bra, by Freya – N8,880 at whispers-ng.com

4) Sports Bra
This is an absolute must-have for the active woman. A sports bra is typically sturdier than the everyday bra. It is so designed to minimise breast movement and reduce the risk of over-stretching the ligaments of the breast.  It is also very necessary to prevent sagging of the breasts. So when next you’re out for a workout, be sure to arm your chest with a good sports bra. Your girls would be more than thankful for it. 

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Energise Underwear Sports Bra, by Elomi – N7,300 at whispers-ng.com

5) Push-up Bra
A push-up bra is a girl’s best friend. With a good push-up bra, every woman can have the wonderful gift of an ample cleavage. This type of bra is designed with extra padding at the bottom of the cup to lift the breasts thereby giving the illusion of a fuller and perkier bust. The push-up bra is necessary when wearing outfits that call for a filled-out look, most especially evening wears. 

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Daydreamer Ivory Bra, by Fantasie – N7,820 at whispers-ng.com

6) Date-Night Bra
As the name suggests, this bra is ultra feminine and is the go-to bra when you want to feel super sexy for that special occasion, whether it’s for an important date night or you’re just giving your partner a bedroom treat. After all it’s no secret that men love lacy underwear.

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Fifi Bra, by Tutti Rouge – N8,060 at whispers-ng.com

7) Bustier or Longline Bra
As the name implies, this type of bra is specially designed to emphasise the cleavage whilst minimising the waist without obstructing the hips. It helps to provide a streamlined and hourglass body shape without the restrictions of a corset as well as the support of a bra. Although bustiers are traditionally associated with brides and bridal lingerie, more and more brands are offering bustiers in a wide variety of colours besides the traditional white.

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Lace Bridal Bustier in Ivory, by Goddess – N9,500 at whispers-ng.com

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Hopscotch Multipadded Longline Bra, by Fantasie – N8,540 at whispers-ng.com

Finally, an addition for all nursing mothers and mums-to-be, 

8) The Nursing Bra
This is a specialised bra that gives additional support to lactating women and allows for comfortable breastfeeding without having to remove the entire bra. Available in both soft cup and underwired, the nursing bra ensures that no matter where you are, you can always breastfeed your child without having to put your goods on full display. Our advice, don’t settle for the traditional black or white nursing bras, be adventurous!

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Rosie Soft Cup Nursing Bra, by Fantasie – N7,820 at whispers-ng.com

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Pure Black Moulded Underwired Nursing Bra, by Fantasie – N8,250 at whispers-ng.com

Unsure of your bra size? Call us today on 0818 384 3683 to book an appointment for your FREE bra fitting. Add us on BBM too at 7C40D47C.

101 Things I Will Teach My Daughters

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MAR. 21, 2014

1. Chocolate is only a temporary fix.

2. A properly-fitting bra is not a luxury. It is a necessity.

3. Your happiness is your happiness and yours alone.

4. How to apply red lipstick.

5. How to wear the crap out of red lipstick.

6. A boyfriend does not validate your existence.

7. Eat the extra slice of pizza.

8. Wear what makes you feel gracefully at ease.

9. Love the world unconditionally.

10. Seek beauty in all things.

11. Buy your friends dinner when you can.

12. Wear sunscreen like it’s your second job.

13. Try with all your might to keep in contact with far-away friends.

14. Make the world feel at ease around you.

15. Walk with your head up.

16. Order a cheeseburger on the first date if you want to.

17. Never, ever bite your nails.

18. Swipe on some lipstick, put on your leather jacket, and sneak into a bar somewhere.

19. Learn from your mistakes that night.

20. Dental hygiene is not multiple choice.

21. Your GPA is not a confession of your character.

22. There is strength in breaking down.

23. You don’t have to like yoga.

24. Pick a tea.

25. Take care of your feet.

26. Pick a perfume.

27. Even if you’re tall, wear the heels anyway.

28. Classy is a relative term.

29. Drink whiskey if you like whiskey.

30. Drink wine if you like wine.

31. Like what you like.

32. Offer no explanation.

33. Advil and Gatorade.

34. You are no less of a woman when you’re in sweats and gym shoes than a woman in stilettos and a pencil skirt.

35. A woman is a woman is a woman.

36. Love your fellow woman with all your heart and soul.

37. Cry, uninhibited, with your friends.

38. Laugh until you can’t breathe with your friends.

39. Tell me everything.

40. Exercise to be strong and healthy. A beautiful soul needs a sturdy vessel.

41. There is no shame in hoping for love.

42. My cooking is the best cooking.

43. Do not take sex lightly.

44. I mean it.

45. Anna Karenina. I’d like it if you read it.

46. The world spins on the principle of inherent tragedy.

47. Do not be blind to it.

48. Men are effectively idiots until the age of 26.

49. Carbohydrates are not the enemy.

50. Involve yourself in an organized activity of your choosing.

51. Listen to classical music occasionally.

52. Take hot baths.

53. Do not use bath salts.

54. You are more than capable.

55. I promise.

56. Don’t smile if you don’t mean it.

57. Mean your anger. Mean your sadness. Mean your pain.

58. I am always, always listening.

59. Travel.

60. Get stuck in a foreign country with $4.67 in your account.

61. Make me furious.

62. Make me worry.

63. Come home smelly, tired, and with a good story.

64. Your story isn’t really yours.

65. You are a compilation of others’ stories.

66. Well-fitting and modest is ALWAYS sexier than too small and tight.

67. Who cares if glitter isn’t tasteful?

68. It’s too much eyeliner if you have to ask.

69. Learn to bake for when you’re sad and I’m not there.

70. Humility and subservience are not synonyms.

71. Wash your face twice per day.

72. Be gentle with your skin.

73. Science is really cool.

74. So is literature.

75. And history.

76. And math.

77. There is no substitute for fresh air.

78. Carry your weight.

79. Make up for it later if you can’t.

80. That salad is not better than pasta and it never will be.

81. You’re fooling no one.

82. Find at least three green vegetables you can tolerate.

83. A smoothie is not a meal.

84. Expect the best from everyone.

85. People will let you down.

86. Bask in the sun (wearing a sunhat and SPF 90).

87. There is a certain kind of man you need to avoid at all costs.

88. You’ll know it when you meet him.

89. What other people say is right doesn’t always feel right.

90. What feels right is where your happiness is.

91. Give thoughtful gifts.

92. Form an opinion.

93. Stick to it.

94. Exfoliation in moderation.

95. Argue with people when you need to.

96. If it’s worth fighting for, fight fiercely.

97. Don’t fight for acceptance.

98. You shouldn’t have to.

99. Take pictures, but not too many.

100. Follow your bliss at all costs. (I’m cutting you off at 22, though).

101. Chocolate ice cream, however, might just be a permanent fix.

Borrowed from ThoughtCatalog