Monthly Archives: July 2014

Kim Kardashian Smacks Down The CEO Of Pepsi Over Women Not Having It All

Last week, Indra Nooyi, the CEO of Pepsi, told an audience convened by The Atlantic that the idea that women “can have it all” is a myth. If someone asked her daughters if she’d been a good mother, she explained, there was a chance they’d say no.  

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In an appearance on CNBC, Kim Kardashian strongly disagreed, suggesting “having it all” is something that can be achieved.

“I just think that’s not really a positive outlook,” she told “Closing Bell” anchor Kelly Evans.

She continued:

My mom taught us girls that we could have it all. She works hard and taught us that if you work hard … it’s just all about prioritizing. Yeah, it could get tough and after you have a baby —  there are so many times when I just didn’t want to get up and work on something and I just wanted to be home with my baby. But, you know, for me, and I think I can speak for my sisters, it makes us feel good when we are out working and we can provide something for our friends and products that, you know, we can’t find, that we really want. And it just makes you feel productive. So if anyone really feels like they can’t do it all … I feel like it’s a little bit discouraging to say that. Even if I couldn’t and it wasn’t possible, I would try. And I would, you know, try my best to do it all.

Read the article that’s got Kim Kardashian all fired up: Pepsi CEO’s Mother Had a Brutal Reaction to Her Daughter’s New Job

Flatten Your Belly with This Killer Ab Workout

Get a tight stomach in just six weeks without doing a single crunch. This may be the easiest workout we’ve ever printed

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Get ready to whip off your cover-up: This workout, created exclusively for Women’s Health by Rachel Cosgrove, C.S.C.S., owner of Results Fitness in Newhall, California, combines fat-burning cardio with moves that target your entire core rather than individual muscles (wouldn’t it be great if there was a magical lower abs workout?), so you’ll burn more fat while toning up.

Directions
Do these workout moves three nonconsecutive days a week. Start with the Basic Workout (moves 1-4 at right) to prime your muscles. After three weeks, you’ll be ready to graduate to the Advanced Workout (moves 5-8). For maximum fat burning, perform the exercises as a circuit: Do one set of each move in the order shown, resting for 30 seconds between exercises. Then rest for a minute and repeat the circuit from the beginning.

Melt Your Middle
Follow this interval-training program three times a week after your core workout. It’ll fire up your metabolism and burn off the fat that’s hiding your abs. Intervals are short bursts of maximum-intensity effort—you’re doing it right if you can’t carry on a conversation—separated by periods of easy-pace recovery. In an Australian study, women who cranked out high-intensity interval training three days a week for 15 weeks dropped significantly more weight than those who exercised for the same period of time at a lower intensity.

For this interval workout, remember to include an easy 3- to 5-minute warmup and cooldown. You can run, bike, or use the cardio machine of your choice.

 

Max Effort Easy Pace Reps
Week 1 1 minute 2 minutes 5
Week 2 1 minute 90 seconds 6
Week 3 1 minute 1 minute 8
Week 4 1 minute 1 minute 10
Week 5 75 seconds 1 minute 10
Week 6 90 seconds 1 minute 10

 

MOVE 1Basic Workout: Plank
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Starting at the top of a pushup position, bend your elbows and lower yourself down until you can shift your weight from your hands to your forearms. Your body should form a straight line. Brace your abs (imagine someone is about to punch you in the gut) and hold for 60 seconds. If you can’t make it to 60 seconds, hold for 5 to 10 seconds and rest for 5 seconds, continuing for 1 minute. Focus on form: Don’t drop your hips or raise your butt.
MOVE 2Basic Workout: Side Plank
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Lie on your right side with your legs straight. Prop yourself up with your right forearm so your body forms a diagonal line. Rest your left hand on your hip. Brace your abs and hold for 60 seconds. If you can’t make it to 60 seconds, hold for 5 to 10 seconds and rest for 5; continue for 1 minute. Be sure your hips and knees stay off the floor.
MOVE 3Basic Workout: Glute Bridge March
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Lie on your back with your knees bent and your feet flat on the floor. Rest your arms on the floor, palms up, at shoulder level. Raise your hips so your body forms a straight line from your shoulders to your knees (A). Brace your abs and lift your right knee toward your chest (B). Hold for 2 counts, then lower your right foot. Repeat with the other leg. That’s 1 rep. Do 2 or 3 sets of 5 to 10 reps.

MOVE 4Basic Workout: Lunge with Rotation
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Grab a 5- to 15-pound dumbbell with both hands. Stand with your feet hip-width apart and your arms straight out (A). Take a big step forward with your left foot and, bracing your abs, twist your torso to the left as you bend your knees and lower your body until both of your legs form 90-degree angles (B). Twist back to center, push off your left foot, and stand back up. Repeat on the other leg. That’s 1 rep. Do 2 or 3 sets of 10 to 15 reps. Keep your elbows straight but not locked.

MOVE 5Advanced Workout: Plank with Arm Lift
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Get into the plank position (toes and forearms on the floor, body lifted). Your body should form a straight line (A). Brace your abs and carefully shift your weight to your right forearm. Extend your left arm in front of you(B) and hold for 3 to 10 seconds. Slowly bring your arm back in. Repeat with the right arm. That’s 1 rep. Do 2 or 3 sets of 5 to 10 reps, resting for 1 minute between sets.

MOVE 6Advanced Workout: Side Plank with Rotation
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In a right-side plank position (A), brace your abs and reach your left hand toward the ceiling (B). Slowly tuck your left arm under your body and twist forward until your torso is almost parallel to the floor (C). Return to the side plank. That’s 1 rep. Do 2 or 3 sets of 5 to 10 reps on each side, resting for 1 minute between sets.

MOVE 7Advanced Workout: Hip-Thigh Raise
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Lie on your back with your right knee bent and your left leg extended. Rest your arms on the floor, palms up, at shoulder level with your hips about 2 inches off the floor (A). Raise your hips to form a straight line from your shoulders to your left foot (B). Hold for 2 counts, then return to start. That’s 1 rep. Do 10 to 15 reps on each side. To make it harder, cross your arms over your chest.

MOVE 8Advanced Workout: Reverse Lunge with Single-Arm Press
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Grab a 5- to 15-pound dumbbell in your left hand and hold it up next to your left shoulder, palm facing in (A). Step backward with your left foot and lower your body until your knees are bent 90 degrees (your left knee should nearly touch the floor) while pressing the dumbbell directly over your shoulder without bending or leaning at the waist (B). Lower the weight back to the starting position as you push quickly back to standing. That’s 1 rep. Do 10 to 15, then switch sides.

Find out how to get a killer butt The Best Workout for a Toned, Tight Butt!

Pepsi CEO’s Mother Had A Brutally Honest Reaction To Her Daughter’s New Job

CONOR FRIEDERSDORF, THE ATLANTIC JUL. 1, 2014, 4:33 PM
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While interviewing Indra K. Nooyi, the CEO of PepsiCo, at the Aspen Ideas Festival Monday*, David Bradley, who owns The Atlantic, asked two questions that elicited as frank a discussion of work-life balance as I’ve seen from a U.S. CEO. Below is a lightly edited transcript. The second question was preceded by a brief discussion of Anne-Marie Slaughter’s “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All.”

Q. You come home one day as president of the company, just appointed, and your mom is not that impressed. Would you tell that story?

This is about 14 years ago. I was working in the office. I work very late, and we were in the middle of the Quaker Oats acquisition. And I got a call about 9:30 in the night from the existing chairman and CEO at that time. He said, Indra, we’re going to announce you as president and put you on the board of directors … I was overwhelmed, because look at my background and where I came from — to be president of an iconic American company and to be on the board of directors, I thought something special had happened to me.

So rather than stay and work until midnight which I normally would’ve done because I had so much work to do, I decided to go home and share the good news with my family. I got home about 10, got into the garage, and my mother was waiting at the top of the stairs. And I said, “Mom, I’ve got great news for you.” She said, “let the news wait. Can you go out and get some milk?”

I looked in the garage and it looked like my husband was home. I said, “what time did he get home?” She said “8 o’clock.” I said, “Why didn’t you ask him to buy the milk?” “He’s tired.” Okay. We have a couple of help at home, “why didn’t you ask them to get the milk?” She said, “I forgot.” She said just get the milk. We need it for the morning. So like a dutiful daughter, I went out and got the milk and came back.

I banged it on the counter and I said, “I had great news for you. I’ve just been told that I’m going to be president on the Board of Directors. And all that you want me to do is go out and get the milk, what kind of a mom are you?”

And she said to me, “let me explain something to you. You might be president of PepsiCo. You might be on the board of directors. But when you enter this house, you’re the wife, you’re the daughter, you’re the daughter-in-law, you’re the mother. You’re all of that. Nobody else can take that place. So leave that damned crown in the garage. And don’t bring it into the house. You know I’ve never seen that crown.”

Q. What’s your opinion about whether women can have it all?

I don’t think women can have it all. I just don’t think so. We pretend we have it all. We pretend we can have it all. My husband and I have been married for 34 years. And we have two daughters. And every day you have to make a decision about whether you are going to be a wife or a mother, in fact many times during the day you have to make those decisions. And you have to co-opt a lot of people to help you. We co-opted our families to help us. We plan our lives meticulously so we can be decent parents. But if you ask our daughters, I’m not sure they will say that I’ve been a good mom. I’m not sure. And I try all kinds of coping mechanisms.

I’ll tell you a story that happened when my daughter went to Catholic school. Every Wednesday morning they had class coffee with the mothers. Class coffee for a working woman — how is it going to work? How am I going to take off 9 o’clock on Wednesday mornings? So I missed most class coffees. My daughter would come home and she would list off all the mothers that were there and say, “You were not there, mom.”

The first few times I would die with guilt. But I developed coping mechanisms. I called the school and I said, “give me a list of mothers that are not there.” So when she came home in the evening she said, “You were not there, you were not there.”

And I said, “ah ha, Mrs. Redd wasn’t there, Mrs. So and So wasn’t there. So I’m not the only bad mother.”

You know, you have to cope, because you die with guilt. You just die with guilt. My observation, David, is that the biological clock and the career clock are in total conflict with each other. Total, complete conflict. When you have to have kids you have to build your career. Just as you’re rising to middle management your kids need you because they’re teenagers, they need you for the teenage years.

And that’s the time your husband becomes a teenager too, so he needs you (laughing). They need you too. What do you do? And as you grow even more, your parents need you because they’re aging. So we’re screwed. We have no … we cannot have it all. Do you know what? Coping mechanisms. Train people at work. Train your family to be your extended family.

You know what? When I’m in PepsiCo I travel a lot, and when my kids were tiny, especially my second one, we had strict rules on playing Nintendo. She’d call the office, and she didn’t care if I was in China, Japan, India, wherever. She’d call the office, the receptionist would pick up the phone, “Can I speak to my mommy?” Everybody knows if somebody says, ‘Can I speak to mommy?’ It’s my daughter. So she’d say, “Yes, Tyra, what can I do for you?”

“I want to play Nintendo.”

So she has a set of questions. “Have you finished your homework?” Etc. I say this because that’s what it takes. She goes through the questions and she says, “Okay, you can play Nintendo half an hour.” Then she leaves me a message. “Tyra called at 5. This is the sequence of questions I went through. I’ve given her permission.” So it’s seamless parenting.

But if you don’t do that, I’m serious, if you don’t develop mechanisms with your secretaries, with the extended office, with everybody around you, it cannot work. You know, stay at home mothering was a full time job. Being a CEO for a company is three full time jobs rolled into one. How can you do justice to all?

You can’t. The person who hurts the most through this whole thing is your spouse. There’s no question about it. You know, Raj always said, you know what, your list is PepsiCo, PepsiCo, PepsiCo, our two kids, your mom, and then at the bottom of the list is me. There are two ways to look at it. (laughing) You should be happy you’re on the list. So don’t complain. (laughing) He is on the list. He is very much on the list. But you know, (laughing) sorry, David.

* The Atlantic co-hosts the Aspen Ideas Festival with the Aspen Institute. PepsiCo is an event sponsor.

10 Ways to Ease PMS Symptoms and Period-Related Pain

Follow these tips, and pretty soon they’ll be just like any other time of the month

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Unfortunately, you can’t really “cure” PMS, let alone having your monthly period. But that doesn’t mean you can’t take steps to take the edge off of their symptoms. Follow these must-try tricks, and you’ll hardly notice any pain at all.

Have a Glass of Wine
  1. Have a glass of wine – A nationwide study showed that moderate alcohol consumption—one glass of vino, for example—was linked to fewer headaches during women’s periods.
  2. Get a massage – Any type of rubdown increases blood flow and eases tension all over your body. Focusing on the area around your waist will be especially helpful when you’re feeling crampy.
  3. Drink Milk – A study from the Archives of Internal Medicine found that women who drank four or more servings of low-fat or skim milk a day had a 46 percent lower risk of PMS pain than women who only consumed one serving a week.
  4. Opt for oral contraceptives – In a Yale University School of Medicine study, oral contraceptives—especially ones with estrogen and progestin—reduced PMS symptoms in about 50 percent of the participants observed. Of course, if you’d rather not take the Pill, then you can stick with the other methods listed here. But if you’re already using birth control and suffer from killer cramps, it’s worth looking into oral contraceptives.
  5. Hit the gym – Not only can hormonal shifts make it easier for you to do tough workouts during your period, but exercise can help relieve aches and pains. Not in the mood to hit the treadmill? Research finds that practicing Yoga Nidra on the regular may help relieve excessive pain or a super-heavy flow.
  6. Ask about antidepressants – It may sound odd, but doctors sometimes prescribe antidepressants like Prozac or Zoloft for intense cases of PMS. They boost your serotonin levels, which can even out mood swings.
  7. Fill up on Spinach – Why? Because it’s loaded with magnesium and iron, both of which have the power to reduce PMS stress and prevent migraines.
  8. Sleep on your back – Other sleeping positions put excess weight on your uterus, which only intensifies PMS pain. Lying on your back takes away that pressure so you can sleep better.
  9. Try Acupuncture – If needles don’t scare you, this is definitely worth a shot (no pun intended). One study found that this treatment relieved PMS symptoms in 78 percent of participants. And in a brand-new study out of the University of California-San Francisco, women who received vitamin K injections during acupuncture also experienced menstrual pain relief.
  10. Take Multivitamins – Look for ones that are high in vitamin E or essential fatty acids; a study published in the journal Reproductive Healthsuggests that both nutrients interact with prostaglandin receptors, which are believed to cause cramps.

The Best Workout for a Toned, Tight Butt

Trust us on this: This is a workout you should seriously get behind

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Blast unwanted fat and create a knockout butt with this two-phase program from Perkins. First, the “Wake ‘Em Up” body-weight exercises are designed to light up your central nervous system and get your glutes primed and ready. “Because they are a particularly sleepy muscle group, performing light glute-activation moves prior to weighted exercises will increase subsequent glute activation,” says Perkins. Follow it up with the “Build ‘Em Up” moves, which will challenge and stimulate your glutes to encourage muscle growth and rev your metabolism.

Two to three times a week, perform three sets of each exercise for the prescribed number of reps, resting 60 seconds between sets. Do all three sets for each exercise before moving on to the next. Remember: The last two reps of every set should be tough, but not so tough that your form suffers.

MOVE 1Prone Leg Raise
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Lie facedown on the floor with your head supported by crossed arms, legs shoulder-width apart, core engaged (a). Contract your glutes to lift your legs about 12 to 16 inches off the ground and bring them together to touch(b). Pause, then slowly lower back to start. That’s one rep.

MOVE 2Glute Bridge
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Lie on your back with your knees bent, feet on the floor 12 to 16 inches from your butt (a). Brace your core, then press into your heels and squeeze your glutes to raise your hips toward the ceiling (b). Hold the position for two seconds before lowering to start. That’s one rep.

MOVE 3Straight-Leg Hip Extension
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Face a low cable machine and attach the ankle strap to your left ankle, holding the machine lightly for support. (If you don’t have access to a cable machine, use a light resistance band.) Shift your weight onto your right leg, keeping both knees soft (a). Squeeze the glutes and extend your left leg straight behind you, keeping your toes slightly flexed (b). Hold this position for two seconds. Return to start. That’s one rep. Complete all reps before switching sides.

MOVE 4Plie Squat
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Stand with feet more than shoulder-width apart, toes turned outward 45 degrees. Hold a barbell across your shoulders and stand tall (a). Bend your knees to lower your body until your thighs are parallel to the floor, keeping your chest upright and core tight (b). Press through your heels and straighten your legs to stand. That’s one rep.

MOVE 5Walking Lunge
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Place a barbell across your shoulders (a), then step your left leg forward into a lunge, bending both knees to 90 degrees (b). Press through your left heel to push up and step forward into a standing position. Step your right leg forward into a lunge and repeat. Each step is one repetition.

MOVE 6Sprinter Kickback
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Face a low cable machine and attach the ankle strap to your left ankle. (You can also use a light resistance band if necessary.) Lift your left knee up in front of you, right knee bent (a). From this position, squeeze your glutes and drive your left leg back to extend your hip until your leg is straight behind you, pressing through your left heel (b). Return to start and complete all reps before switching sides.

MOVE 7Step-Up
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Place a barbell across your shoulders and stand in front of a stable stepping block or bench. Stand tall with your core engaged, then place your left foot on the bench (a). Driving through that heel, push yourself up on the bench(b). Step back down to the floor to return to start. Complete all reps, then switch legs.
MOVE 8Single-Leg Deadlift
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Hold a barbell in front of your thighs, using an overhand grip. Soften your knees and shift your weight onto your left leg (a). Hinge forward from your hips to lower the bar toward the floor, keeping it close to your body and raising your right leg behind you. Your left knee should be slightly bent, and your chest lifted, back flat, and arms straight (b). Press through your left heel and contract your glutes to reverse the movement and return to start. Complete all reps, then switch legs.

10 Easy To Miss Signs He’ll Never Commit

January 23, 2014 ‐ By Julia Austin

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There are the obvious signs you’re being strung along, like he’s dating somebody else, he only calls you to hang out at 2 am and he’s never introduced you to any of his friends. But some signs that a man will never commit aren’t so obvious—in fact, women will make excuses, saying the behavior is normal. 

HE NEVER GETS JEALOUS

If you get drunk and pass out in your male friend’s bed, your boyfriend doesn’t bat an eyelash. If you sit on another guy’s lap at a party, your guy doesn’t care. If you’re at the office late alone, working on a project with a cute male coworker, your guy doesn’t complain one bit.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

Of course you ignore it! It’s awesome to have a boyfriend who is so NOT controlling. But the truth is, if a guy is in love with you, he doesn’t want you sitting on other guys’ laps. But if he has no plans to commit, he isn’t going to start a fuss over it because that sends you the impression he cares more than he does.

HE IS RIGID ABOUT HIS SCHEDULE

If he said he was going to come over, but his meeting got out just an hour later than he’d expected, he says he wants to go home instead because it’s getting late and he needs his sleep. If you’re in his neighborhood by chance and ask to stop by, he says he was about to go to the gym and doesn’t want to miss a workout.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You want to be “understanding” and “chill” and hey, you get it: sleep is important and exercise is important! But come on! If a guy plans on making you a real part of his life, he understands he

HE DOESN’T INVITE YOU, WHEN OTHER GIRLFRIENDS WENT

He goes to a friend’s birthday party and doesn’t invite you. You find out later other girlfriends were there.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You get it: sometimes he just wants time with his friends without you. You don’t want to be clingy–he doesn’t have to invite you everywhere. But hold up: if other girlfriends were there, he should have invited you. If he planned on keeping you around, he’d realize it was embarrassing for you to clearly not be invited when plus ones were welcome.

HE HAS A LOT OF ACTIVITIES HE KEEPS TO HIMSELF

He’s never taken you to one of his basketball games, or to his chess group, or to the Sunday brunch meet-up group he’s a part of. There are a lot of regular activities he does that you’re never included in.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You tell yourself that it’s healthy to have activities all to yourself—it helps a person maintain their individual identity inside of a relationship. But, a guy can still share his hobbies with you a little bit without losing his identity. If he absolutely refuses to share them with you, it could be because he doesn’t plan on being with you forever, and doesn’t want you infiltrating those areas of his life.

HE WON’T FIGHT WITH YOU

You could be screaming at him, insulting him or bawling your eyes out and he remains quiet, or just agrees with everything you say, or leaves saying, “Let me know when you’ve calmed down.”

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You say maybe he just doesn’t want to fight because he feels it drives you two apart. But, a guy who plans on being with you for the long haul cares a lot about what you think about him, and how he makes you feel! He would never let you criticize him without defending himself, and he would never watch you cry without wanting to fix it. Meanwhile, a guy who doesn’t plan on sticking around won’t exert any energy into fighting.

HE WON’T ACCEPT HELP FROM YOUR FAMILY

Your parents have offered to introduce your boyfriend to their broker, their real estate agent, professional contacts they think would be great for him or a friend who has a vacation house he could stay in. But he always turns them down.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You tell yourself he is just very independent and is uncomfortable accepting help. You tell yourself he doesn’t want to be a bother to your parents. In reality, he probably feels guilty having people go out of their way for him, when he knows pretty soon those people won’t even be in his life.

HE TELLS YOU HE’S MADE BIG DECISIONS; HE DOESN’T ASK YOU

He tells you he’s going to travel around the world for three months, or that he’s quit his job, or that he is moving apartments next week. He doesn’t ask for your input.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You want to be the “cool” girlfriend so you just tell yourself, “I’m not his boss! He’s a grown man! Good for him that he’s traveling for three months…! He can go find himself and learn new things…!” Oh please. Because you won’t admit it to yourself I’ll say it for you: a man should want to bring you on that trip for three months or at the very, very least, want to discuss it with you to make sure he wouldn’t be missing any big events in your life, or to give you the option to say, “I’ll miss you so much! Can’t you just make it two months?” And he should want your opinion on the apartment he’s moving into if he plans on you spending tons of time there! It’s not too much for you to ask to be included in these decisions.

HE WANDERS OFF AT SOCIAL EVENTS

When you go to parties or events together, you find yourself alone for most of the time. He’ll pass by you with a drink and plate of food, but he never offered to get you one. He’ll wave at you from a circle of people, but won’t wave you over.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You say to yourself, “It’s good we’re not one of those couples attached at the hip! I’m happy we’re not one of those annoying couples who is afraid to socialize without the other one.” Okay, yeah…but even the “cool” couples check in with one another. Even in the “independent” couples the guy never goes to the bar without offering to get his girlfriend something. But, if in your guy’s head he is unattached (or soon to be), he’s curious about meeting tons of people without you at parties.

HE’S PUSHY ABOUT SEX

He won’t accept it when you say you’re tired or just not in the mood. He acts like an indignant college boy, continuing to bother you while you try to sleep, and even getting noticeably annoyed that you won’t have sex with him.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You say, “Oh, he’s just a guy! They’re animals! They’re all like that!” UM…that’s not just being an “animal.” That’s almost sexual molestation. You should be able to sleep in peace. A guy who plans on being with you for a long time can let a few nights without sex go by because he knows there will be plenty of time for that in the future. But a guy who sees an expiration date on this relationship wants to get in all the free play he can, before he’s out hunting at bars again.

HE HAS EXCUSES NOT TO DO YOU FAVORS

Any time you’ve asked him for a ride to the airport, or to stop by your house and feed your dog because your meeting was running late, or to pick up your prescription because the pharmacy was about to close and you were stuck in traffic, he had an excuse not to.

WHY YOU IGNORE IT

You tell yourself, “I’m a grown woman. I should do those things myself. I shouldn’t be depending on a man anyways.” Accepting help does not mean you’re depending on somebody! And if you think of it, there have probably been dozens of times he’s asked you to do him a favor, and you’ve done it even though you had better reasons not to, than the reasons he’s giving you. When you care about someone, you don’t find excuses: you find a way.

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Have Great Morning Sex

Having sex first thing in the morning does more than put a smile on your face—it boosts your health, your looks, and your relationship

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For most of the working world, the blaring of the alarm clock isn’t a happy sound. So why not turn that rude awakening into an erotic opportunity with a roll in the 400-thread-count hay? After all, scientists say that people who start their days by having sex are all-around healthier and happier than those who don’t.

“Having sex in the morning releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin, which makes couples feel loving and bonded all day long,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. It makes you stronger and more beautiful too: Morning sex can strengthen your immune system for the day by enhancing your levels of IgA, an antibody that protects against infection. And climaxing releases chemicals that boost levels of estrogen, which improves the tone and texture of your skin and hair. Want to max out the morning love? Follow these tips.

—Elise Nersesian

Give Him a Sexy Wake-Up Call
  1. Give him a sexy wake up call: Set your alarm to play soft music, and as soon as you’re roused, quietly slip out of your pj’s. Then try this trick: If he’s lying on his back, place your hands on his thighs with your thumbs pointing toward his genitals, suggests acupuncturist Alexis Arvidson. Move your thumbs in a slow, firm circular motion, two inches in diameter. According to the ancient teachings of acupuncture, rubbing this thin-skinned area will get the blood flowing straight to his nether regions. Well, isn’t that convenient, since that’s where you’re headed next!
  2. Get Fresh: Sneaking off to the bathroom to brush your teeth can do more than ward off dragon breath. “Not only will your kisses be minty, but the menthol in your toothpaste can give your guy a tingly thrill during oral sex,” Herbenick says. Focus on the head of his penis and his scrotal skin, two nerve-rich areas. Just note: It takes a few minutes for the effects of menthol to work, so be patient—he may not feel it at first.
  3. Enjoy the View: Part of what makes morning sex so deliciously primal is that, in the light of day, it’s difficult to hide your so-called flaws. So let your insecurities take a backseat to pure, unadulterated pleasure, and instead of covering up under the blankets, throw them off so you can both get a visual thrill. He’ll bask in the eye candy, and you will too: Studies conducted by Emory University found that women are just as visually aroused as men during sex.
  4. Take advantage of Nature: Your guy’s body is hardwired to want sex first thing in the a.m. (hello, morning wood!). “While he sleeps, the testosterone he’ll use for the upcoming day accumulates,” says Gabrielle Lichterman, author of 28 Days. “From the time he wakes up, he has a three-hour window when he’s brimming with peak levels.” Don’t let them go to waste: Hop aboard his primed body for some girl-on-top action.
  5. Boost your animal lust: As soon as you’re awake, snuggle up to your guy and take a whiff. Because he hasn’t showered yet, you’ll feel extra turned on by his au naturel scent. According to scientists at the University of Pennsylvania, a man’s musky underarm odor is a proven libido booster. Really, you can’t make this stuff up!
  6. Try a Cozy Move: Since you’ll both be groggy, try a position that requires little to no effort: spooning. “While you’re facing away from your guy, part your legs and guide him inside you,” says New York City-based sex and marital therapist Jane Greer, Ph.D. “His hands will be free to roam all of your hot spots, and he can whisper in your ear.”
  7. Install a double shower head: Taking a shower together sounds romantic and all, but let’s get real: There’s room under the water for only one person at a time. Fix that by getting a double showerhead (available at any home-goods store). Then crank up the water temp; heat brings blood to the skin’s surface, making it more receptive to touch. And soap each other up with peppermint shower gel; the scent wakes you up as it triggers the same nerves that are activated by smelling salts, says research from Wheeling Jesuit University in West Virginia.
  8. Have a Quickie: Sunrise sex doesn’t have to be a drawn-out affair. In fact, “mornings are the perfect time to indulge in a quickie, because you’ll probably be in a rush, and the heart-pounding adrenaline of spontaneous sex will intensify the entire experience,” Greer says.
    Pounce on him when he least expects it (say, while he’s stepping out of the shower, getting dressed, or making breakfast). And you can ditch foreplay this time—studies published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that if women ignore outside distractions (for example, the television, their laptops), they can start to become aroused in 30 seconds flat. Keep in mind: Quickies don’t necessarily have to include intercourse. A hot-and-heavy makeout session, copping a fast feel, or letting him catch you checking out his butt before you dash out the door for work will go a long way toward igniting your passion.