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8 signs you are a side chick

Being a side chick usually isn’t by choice. Often times men make women side chicks without their knowing and these women end up getting hurt when they discover they aren’t ‘the one’. So if you think your man isn’t being straight with you, here are seven signs that you may be a side chick.download36

1. His house is a CIA secret

You’ve never been invited to his house for a date. You have no idea what his house looks like or where he even lives, despite the fact that you two have been dating for months now. When a guy is entirely uninterested or unwilling to show you his home or invite you into it, it’s likely because he shares his home with another woman. He doesn’t want to get caught in his lie anthere’s not enough time to hide the evidence and then put everything back into its place.woman-sad-couple

2.  He never spends the night.

That’s because his time is being accounted for by another woman. He has to be home by a certain time, or even if his woman knows he’s cheating, all she cares about is that he comes home every night.black-couple-laying-on-bed

3. His phone never leaves his sight

Men who are players tend to be highly protective of their phones. He has a password on his phone and makes sure to lock it after every time he uses it. When the phone rings, he either goes into another room to take the call, ignores it completely, or turns the volume down super low so that you can’t possibly hear a thing that is being said.black-man-cheating

4. He doesn’t show up when he’s supposed to  

Let’s just say he does make plans with you, but constantly stands you up with no explanations or apologies. If he gets ghost a lot, that’s a serious red flag.woman waiting for her date


5. You’ve never met his parents or friends

Most men who are proud and happy with their relationship will eventually introduce their girlfriend to his parents and/or his friends. If you have never met, let alone spoken to his parents or friends, this is a huge sign that you can’t be known amongst his inner circles. Why? Because he’d immediately be ousted as a cheater and a player.black-couple2

6. He NEVER talks about the future

Asking him about his views on the future of your relationship is like pulling teeth. Simply put, this guy doesn’t want to think about the future because he really isn’t planning one. In his mind he’s probably well aware that keeping you as the other woman won’t last for too long, so why plan on a future at all?African_couple_arguing_in_bed_GOGOCAA00446-e1324034198374

7. You aren’t on any of his social media pages

Somewhere in convenient survey land is a stat that shows Facebook and Twitter is the fastest growing catalyst for failed relationships. It’s very easy to get caught slipping on such Social Networks which is why if a guy refuses to acknowledge you on his timeline he’s trying to hide your affiliation. This same guy may also disable his facebook wall to prevent your inevitable declaration of crush on him. Typical excuses include “I’m not saying that I don’t want people to know about us, I just don’t like to air out my business”<— relatable BUT where some guys are genuine with this others know what they’re doing when dealing with a side chickstop-friends-from-asking-you-what-your-relationship-status-is-facebook.w654

8. Your relationship is almost entirely physical

When he compliments you, it’s about how nice your body is or how good you are in bed. When you two spend time together, it usually ends up between the sheets. He doesn’t wine and dine you often but instead focuses more on having you and getting out. When a guy refuses to connect with you on a mental or emotional level, it could be because he’s already connected that way with his main woman.Black-couple-kissing-2


If you consciously go into a relationship knowing that you are the side chick, then good luck! But if that’s not your goal, please know that you deserve and are worth much more than what he is giving you.


The very WORST reason why I was dumped!

‘The hospital I had been admitted to was too far away for him to drive to’: Reddit users reveal the very WORST reasons why they were dumped

  • A Reddit thread has asked the worst reasons behind a break-up
  • One man broke up with his girlfriend because her forehead was too big
  • Another was dumped for refusing to take advantage of his girlfriends body

Being dumped is bad enough, but being dumped because your ‘forehead is too big’ is next level heartache.

A Reddit thread has revealed the most outrageous reasons why couples break-up, and it’s not because they simply grew apart. The list of relationship deal breakers included being too respectful, not being the fastest runner in the class and refusing to apologise for cheating… despite it only happening in a dream!

‘She basically left because I refused to apologise for cheating on her. With her sister. In a dream. That she had,’ one person wrote.

Another appeared to still hold a grudge despite the break-up happening when he was in primary school. ‘I was 6 years old. She was 5. I was the tallest kid in class, and thus got the girl. However, she dumped me because Charlie ran faster than me. F*** you Charlie,’ he said.

A perk of being in a relationship is having someone there for you when times get tough, but having a girlfriend in hospital proved too much for one man. ‘The hospital I had been admitted to was too far away for him to drive to, and he didn’t want to look like an a** for not visiting his girlfriend,’ his disgruntled ex-partner revealed.

They say good guys finish last, and this appeared to be the case for man who said when he was 14, he was dumped because he never pressured his girlfriend for sex so ‘she assumed I was gay’.

And it’s not just men doing the break up, a man was dumped after he could no longer afford to buy his girlfriend lunch every day and she admitted she was just ‘in it for the food’

What’s the worst reason someone has broken up with you over?

PUBLISHED: 05:18 GMT, 11 November 2015 | UPDATED: 05:58 GMT, 11 November 2015

Sexy Victoria’s Secret lingerie show hits 20-year mark

Yes, Tuesday was Victoria’s Secret sexpot angel time, though the masses will have to wait until 10 p.m. EST on Dec. 8 to watch the 20th annual lingerie extravaganza on CBS. This was just the taping, including musical performances by The Weeknd, Ellie Goulding and Selena Gomez, after Rihanna abruptly canceled.


Veteran VS walkers like Lily Aldridge and Alessandra Ambrosio were joined by newbie angels, including Martha Hunt and Elsa Hosk. Kendall Jenner and Gigi Hadid were among the non-winged supermodels new to the glitzy show that generates weeks of advance buzz and will be seen in 192 countries by more than 500 million people, according to company officials.

In all, 47 models blew air kisses, flirted on stage with the camera and flipped their varied wings around as they strutted on the runway in 75 looks at a Manhattan armory. But first, there was hair and makeup to be done and a “pink carpet” of celebrity guests to be walked. Questlove and Nick Cannon were on hand, along with a dapper member of the Mets, Matt Harvey, in a black Versace suit.

Caitlyn Jenner was among those who attended the runway show to cheer on daughter Kendall


Hadid said backstage that she has big respect for the veteran angels and hopes to earn her own wings one day. Brand new angel Rachel Hilbert, from Rochester, New York, was in the Pink USA squad on the runway, and was also in awe of the longtime ladies, including Brazilian beauty Adriana Lima, seated just inches away on a comfy white couch in rollers backstage.

“Uh, yeah, Adriana Lima. She’s sitting right there,” Hilbert smiled as all wore pink-and-white striped robes, curlers in their hair, while manicures, pedicures, spray tanning and makeup commenced. “She’s such a sweetheart. Her advice was just breathe and just take it in.”

So how were the nerves for the newcomers?

“Actually, surprisingly, not bad,” Hadid said before the show. “I was really nervous in rehearsal.”

She shared the stage later with Gomez and Goulding.

“I love both of them,” said Hadid, who fell to the floor and gasped in a video of her audition, when she was told she was picked.

As for her famous curves, she prepared with the help of boxing and ballet.


“A lot of sweating and then just focusing on smaller parts because when everything’s in high-def you have to not forget about the little things,” Hadid said. “I’ve watched the show my entire life and this has been such a dream.”

The show featured sections of ’60s boho angels flashing piece signs in teeny bras and panties, swinging fringe and showing off wings made of sculptured paper, leather and feathers, including Jenner. Her gal pal Hadid was among a group of exotic butterflies with wings and outfits sparkling with crystals. The patriotic pink group included an American-flagged theme outfit and wings.

This year’s iteration of the annual Fantasy Bra was fashioned in bursts of fireworks, the theme for one of the liveliest sections of the show. The demi-bra and matching belt are worth $2 million and were worn by Aldridge. They were created by the jewelry company Mouawad in 18-karat gold and encrusted with 6,500 diamonds, blue topaz, yellow sapphires and other precious stones.

Hunt was the last firework, closing the show in another center piece, courtesy of Swarovski, one of the evening’s sponsors. It was a corset sparkling with 90,000 gold, red, green and blue crystals. The look, along with her light-up wings, included 20,000 crystals and 1,200 battery-powered LED lights. The battery pack she lugged weighed in at 19 pounds.

“I did practice … with a trainer. I wore a weighted vest and walked back and forth in high heels,” she said.


Hunt’s last meal before hitting the makeup chair was eggs. She promised her first after the show would be: “Pizza. … Pizza is one of my favorite foods. Pizza and pasta.”

Gomez, a buddy of previous Victoria’s Secret show performers like Taylor Swift, along with some of the walkers, performed on the splashy stage with her dancers as models walked, as did The Weeknd and Goulding.

“I don’t know if I could be an angel, I’m not gonna lie,” Gomez joked. “I look at how hard they work. I like fried food too much. I don’t know if I could give that up.”

Lima, marking her 16th year as an angel, said her nerves leading up to each show never really go away.

“It’s a little bit tough after so many years because the girls are so beautiful and I have to keep up with them,” laughed the 34-year-old mother of two. “I work out as much as I can, and you know, I feel great … I feel wonderful in my skin.”


Sarah Harding wears Freya Goldrush on Fabulous cover

Sarah Harding has been photographed wearing Freya swimwear on the cover of the Sun on Sunday’s Fabulous magazine.

The singer and actress wears the brand’s Goldrush swimsuit with a gold harness.

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Harding shared the cover on Twitter yesterday with the caption: “Thankyou @Fabulousmag for a great shoot! Out this Sunday in @TheSun.”

Turn up the poolside glamour and shimmer in sunkissed metallic with Gold Rush. gold-rush-swimsuit (1)

Gold Rush: The underwired swimsuit features asymmetric cut-outs for a fashion-forward feel. Available in a D to F cup.


Deals Of The Day! Thursday

1. Butterfly Print Satin Chemise Only n4,500!

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Pretty satin chemise with a delicate butterfly print. Empire line and lace detail with centre bow feature. Length 34in

Available Sizes: 12,14 & 16

2. Cool Comfort Scallop Trim Slip Only n2,250!

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A cling resistant, knee length slip with a cool comfort finish and scallop trim.

Available Sizes: 10,12 & 14

3. Cotton Rich Lace Trim StayNew Camisole Only n2,300!

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The perfect keeping cool vest with spaghetti straps and lace trim at the front. Scoop neck. Added stretch. Made with stay new fabric technology to keep your vest from bobbling and and making your top look newer for longer.

Available Sizes: 8,12,14,16,18 & 20

4. Reversible Cool Comfort Full Slip Only n2,900!

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Flattering lace trimmed strap slip, designed to support and smooth out discreetly and enhance your look in any outfit. Designed to keep you cool all day.  Adjustable straps with gold braces, cling resistant and and-static with moisture wicking finish, added stretch and reversible!

Available Sizes: 12,14,16,20 & 22

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Deals Of The Day! Wednesday

1. Stretch Jersey Cami Only n2,000!

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Plain cami with slim straps and a scoop neckline. Made from a stretch jersey fabric.

Available Sizes: 12,14,16,18 & 20

2. Cotton Rich Lace Trim Vest Only n2,200.00!


The new improved fit and longer length offers a flattering shape and additional comfort. Sleeveless with lace trim scoop neckline. Added stretch.

Available Sizes: 10,12,14,16 & 18

3. Stretch Jersey Cami Only n2,000!

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Plain cami with slim straps and a scoop neckline. Made from a stretch jersey fabric.

Available Sizes: 14,16 & 18

4. Cream V-Neck Lace Trim Slinky  Vest Only n2,000!

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This slinky vest is ideal for layering with thin straps and a lace trim with centre bow detail.

Available Sizes: 10,12 & 14

5. Plum Stretch Jersey Cami only n2,000!


Plain cami with slim straps and a scoop neckline. Made from a stretch jersey fabric.

Available Sizes: 12,14,16,18 & 20

6. Grow On Lace Strappy Vest Only n2,200.00!


Cool Comfort technology helps to keep you cool and comfy all through the night. Adjustable straps and grown on lace design with centre bow feature. Added stretch.

Available Sizes: 10,12,14,16 & 18

7. Stretch Jersey Cami Only n2,000!

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Plain cami with slim straps and a scoop neckline. Made from a stretch jersey fabric.

Available Sizes: 12,14,16,18 & 20

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Deal Of The Day! Tuesday

1. Contrast Lace Border Thong Only n900.00!


This thong is made from a soft cotton blend fabric with added stretch. Low on the hips with a delicate lace border.

2. Spotted Low Rise Bikini Knickers Only n850.00! cotton-rich-high-leg-briefs

Bikini styles sit on the hips with narrower sides and good bottom cover. A playful spot print adds an ultra feminine finish. Scallop trim and centre bow feature.

3. Embroidered Lace Shorts Only n1,050! embroidered-lace-shorts (1)

These shorts style underwear sits on the hips with a low leg line. Low rise with a centre bow feature and scallop trim.

4. Jacquard Lace Trim High Leg Knickers Only n1,000!jacquard-lace-trim-high-leg-knickers

A flattering high leg cut instantly makes your legs look longer. These sit just below the waist and provide good bottom cover. Ornate lace gives a beautifully soft and exquisite look that will make you feel feminine and comfortable all day. Scallop trim. Centre bow feature.

5. Lace Trimmed Low Rise Shorts Only n500.00!


Shorts style design with a low leg and sits on the hips.

6. Geometric Lace Hipster Briefs Only n1,000!


Exquisite delicate lace hipster briefs, semi sheer with beautiful geometric stripe patterns. Scallop edge. Wrap style

7. Wide Lace Trim Brazilian Only n960.00! wide-lace-trim-brazilian

Beautiful Brazilian style knickers, low rise with a centre bow and a large floral lace around the legs finished with a scallop trim.

8. Printed Low Rise Knickers Only n850.00!  printed-low-rise-knickers

Bikini styles sit on the hips with narrower sides and good bottom cover. A delicate floral print adds an ultra feminine finish. Frill trim and centre bow feature.

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How to Get Your Groove Back

Even Stella did it.

Lingerie is to men what a well fitting suit is to women. So no need to worry if you think your sex life has plateaued out. All you need is a few essentials to turn up the heat and Whispers nigeria has all you need to get you to your climax, every time.

After Work

Meet him at the door wearing our gorgeous Vivienne Bra, in exquisite French Lace and finished off with delicate Swiss embroidery comes in this Latte Honey shade that is guaranteed to make your skin glow and light up his night.

Available in up to GG cup.

After Dinner

Once he gets over the shock factor of Vivienne, why not slip into Deco Darling Plunge Babydoll for that midnight nookie. The Deco Darling comes with moulded padding and underwired cups to support your boobs while you sleep whilst offering him a view of your deep, full, plunging neckline.

Deco Darling Plunge Babydoll

Available in up to G cup

Morning Sex

Many say a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Our recipe for love is much much different to food. Plus, you don’t have to argue about dirty dishes. Ease off the tension of a hard day’s work by taking it in turns using our Warming Massage Lotion. Liquid Love Massage Lotion is a warming massage lotion that gently warms as you massage – blow on it and it will get hotter!

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Remember that this is about you getting your groove back. So to kick things up a notched on this journey of self discovery, treat yourself to our Durex Play O Female Orgasm Gel. Durex Play O Female Orgasm Gel is simply one of the best sensations you are likely to feel on your lady parts,makes more blood flow to these regions hence, heightened pleasure due to increased sensitivity.

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After Eights

Just because it’s morning does not mean it’s all over. With a new morning comes a new you. Keep on our Mae set including suspenders whilst making breakfast, putting your make up on. Do anything, just be sure that he’s watching every move you make, every sway of your hips, with all your Mae frills and your heels on as you get ready to conquer the world of work.

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Available in up to XL

Out In The Sun

Take advantage of the sun and spend the day idling away at the poolside. Margaritas are a must with our Gold Rush Swim Suit. Just sit back, relax and watch him unable to keep his eyes, or hands, off you.

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Available in up to F

Congratulations on making it this far, now go out and conquer the world, you gorgeously fierce Whisperer xx

15 Things I Am Too Scared To Say To My New Husband


When it comes to talking with my husband, I’m a little worried. Not because I’m afraid of what he might do but because I’ve been single for a while. And riding solo for a while had taught me a lot about my choices, my attitude and my values. it’s also has given me time to think about the things I absolutely want in my husband.

Some are a little unrealistic, some are must-haves and others will probably pop up along the way, but in no particular order, here are the things that I want to but I am too scared to say to by new husband.

I need you…

1. To say — and write — loving things to me a lot.

I’m absolutely in love with words. And especially loving words. Even if it’s as simple as “I love you” on a piece of paper, then please do it. I’ll also settle for a text message (or 20), too.

2. To ask my dad for my hand in marriage.

And my mom, too, while you’re at it. I know it’s old-fashioned but you know what? I don’t care. I know that he’ll say “yes” and though you might have to drive to my town – yes town, not village - to ask, just think – my dad would respect you more for it!

3. To be good at balancing our incomes.

I don’t care if your father is Dangote (Okay, I care small) and I don’t care if your are driving a 2015 Escalade with all the factory fittings. Please understand that although I’m pretty financially secure, I worry about having enough money more than anything else. I save more than the average 20-something, but I have this irrational fear about it all disappearing. I need you to be grounded on the topic and calm me down when I freak out.

4. To give me a lot of space.

I was raised to be strong, dependable and loyal. I’ve always had plenty of alone time and it’s important to me. It’s not you, I love you.  it’s just that I have to have space to clear my mind. I promise to always come home to you.

5. To have a lot of sex with me.

Oh, and I want a lot of babies, too. I know that gotta-have-you-right-now kind of sex changes the longer you’re in a relationship (and especially when children come into the picture) but I always want to feel physically connected to you. And I want you to always view me as the sexiest woman you’ve ever known. In return, I promise to make an effort, even when I’m absolutely exhausted. I hope you will too.

6. To listen to me overcommunicate about everything.

I tend to ramble when I feel insecure; it’s my way of forcing someone to say something. It’s irrational and emotional and often unnecessary but if I don’t say it, it’ll eat me up inside. This vulnerability is part of the reason why I’m a success, but it’s also a downfall.

7. To accept that I use six different bottles of shampoo and conditioner.

And at least 25 nail polish colors. Oh, and 10 lipsticks. Okay, fine, I don’t need them but one day when I run out mid-shower, do you really want to be the one to run to the store to pick it up for me? Didn’t think so.

8. To tell me I don’t look fat.

I might one day, but when I come out of our bedroom for some special event and you only muster, “Let’s get going,” my feelings will be really hurt. I’ll pay you compliments and I’ll rub your shoulders when you’re stressed, so please do the same for me.

9. To not be embarrassed when I cry in movies.

I’m super-independent, self-sufficient and strong, but dramas get me everytime. Sometimes, even comedies. Just bring the tissues to the theater, ok?

10. To speak your opinion.

I want to be in love with your mind, your heart, what you stand for, what pisses you off, what makes you unique, what makes you turned on — I want to savour everything. So tell me everything. Share your life with me.

11. To plan regular date night.

Even if it’s just in our pyjamas on a Friday night with takeout and a movie. I hear of couples losing the spark and I’m freaked out about losing it. Can we make a pact that we’ll have a date night once a week? I’m cool with pizza and beer and NTA, just as long as we don’t lose each other in our busy lives.

12. To have a mom who likes me.

We don’t have to be besties or drink wine together all the time, but I want her to like me. Especially more than she liked your college girlfriend.

13. To have a passion.

Or five of them. I never want to be anyone’s everything, even yours. I really believe no one can grow in shade and I don’t ever want us to feel suffocated by one another. I will support you in whatever you want to join, play or be part of, but have something you love besides me.

14. To remind me you’re sticking around.

Sorry, you can blame BBM. And WhatsApp. And every pub, club and Point-&-Kill scene from Lagos to Kaduna. I don’t have much faith in the opposite sex.

15. To feel loved.

And adored. My friends nickname me “love” because it’s such a big part of my DNA. And yet in every relationship I’ve had, I haven’t felt loved by the man I was with. Not truly, not fully, and not sincerely. I need to feel love in my bones and see it in your eyes. Why? Because I will love you more than you can imagine, and I need you to feel the same.

By Lindsay Tigar originally for YourTango