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TLC Guide to Buying Lingerie – FOR MEN ONLY!

Does the picture above relate to you? It’s the season of giving and as a gentleman, you would like to buy lingerie for your other half.

The only problem is that you have no idea where to start. Well, fear no further for the Whispers’ Angels are here to help.

Here is our step by step guide for buying lingerie.

Size Matters!

This is where your James Bond-like skills come in. Sneak a look through her lingerie bag for her size. This is usually clearly stated on the labels attached to the clothing. Women usually have a few different sizes so be sure to look through a few of her lingerie as the most common size she has is most likely to be the correct size. Try to put it all back as you found it so she does not suspect a thing.

Remember, Style is a reflection of attitude…

Forget James Bond, this is where you need to bring your A game. Your other half’s style is much more than just colours and cuts. It is how she presents herself to the world at large so it is really an extension of her personality. Think of her style as the front page advert of a major newspaper. So take some time to jot down the colours she wears, the fabrics she loves down to the whether she’s most comfortable with whips & chains or she’s a lace & flowers kinda girl. The good news is that there is lingerie for every type of girl. If in doubt, ask her BFF aka best friend forever.

Think “there is no box”, except a lingerie box…

Body shapes differ and so does lingerie. Welcome to the 21st century, guys! No longer is the full meaning of lingerie defined by bras and panties only, there are now wide variations to suit every body type. If your other half is tall and slim, then we recommend a lingerie set complete with garters and stockings.

Ooh la la by Freya

If she reminds you more of Marilyn Monroe with her curvy, hourglass shape, then we will recommend a corset, a teddy or a Matching Set Lingerie with high waisted Knickers.

Amelia  by Elomi

And finally, if she is slim or athletic then we highly recommend feminine booty shorts like the ones below.

Rosa by Tutti Rouge

Just a few teeny tiny warnings…

Colours

Once you decide on the type of lingerie you want, the rest is easy. Most lingerie now come in a wide variety of colours and prints, stick to the types that are appear most frequently in her closet.

Material and Textures

Padded or non padded, lace, satin, silk, cotton, polyvinyl chloride (PVC), leather, lycra, and velvet – these are all the materials that lingerie come in. Be adventurous, don’t stray too far out from what she has in her closet. Unless she has hinted at PVC several times, do not buy her PVC if she’s a cotton-and-lace type of girl. Rather, buy her silk.

Boomerang…

Now that you done your homework and followed our guide, we can guarantee that you are now well equipped to and ready to buy lingerie. Click here to shop now. Delivery is free nationwide and you can add a personal, handwritten note at no additional cost. All our orders are gift wrapped and delivered straight to your order. Or hers. Now all you have to do is sit back, relax and let her show you just how much she appreciates her new lingerie.

WANT TO WEAR A GARTER BELT? HERE’S HOW!

Part of this article was first posted by Sabrina Russo on 7th Apr 2015

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Garter belts are extremely sexy when worn. This sassy look can be worn under clothes to be revealed later, or it can be the only thing you’re wearing!

No matter how you want to wear a garter belt, you are sure to look sexy and stunning. Putting on a garter belt with thigh highs can be a little tricky so here’s a quick tutorial on how to attach thigh highs to a garter belt.

Make Sure You Get a Garter Belt that Fits!

You should go to a reputable store and try some on. Make sure you get one that sits nicely on your hips and is comfortable when standing and sitting. Having the right size garter belt is important! You want to look sexy, not uncomfortable!

The video below from The Lingerie Addict YouTube Channel tells you all about garter belts (or suspender belts for my UK readers). With Mad Men, Dita von Teese, and, of course, the on-going popularity of Bettie Page, there’s more interest in garter belts now than ever before.

But not all garter belts are created equal so how can you know the difference between a good one and a not-so-good one? Just use the 4 tips from our latest video as your guide:

No time to watch the video? Here are the key takeaways for what to look for:

  1. A wide front panel
  2. Metal garter grips and adjusters
  3. Six garter straps
  4. Hook and eye closure in the back with at least 3 hooks and eyes

I hope you enjoy the video and that, if you’re new to garter belts, it helps you shop for one. Ready to buy a garter belt right now? Click here. And if you have any garter belt advice of your own to share, I’d love to read it in the comments.

Part of this article was first published by Cora, Chief Editor of The Lingerie Addict

Lingerie is not porn.

 

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“I love this post as soon as I read it but I didn’t really think I had to repost it until I was told by my bank that they were reluctant to work with The Lingerie Company because we sell Underwears. As women, living outside the west especially, we have been lectured by mothers, fathers, aunties and sisters that the feminine things are unsightly and unbecoming of women to show off. These are all lies. Be proud to a women, feel gorgeous in your beautiful lingerie. We hope you enjoy this post as much as we did” Love, Whispers nigeria x

About a year ago, while trying to get some work done on the train from Seattle to Portland, I was startled to discover that a couple of my favorite shopping websites, namely Bare Necessities and HerRoom, were blocked for being “pornographic.” Now just to be clear, I both understand and am completely on board with restricting access to sexually explicit material in public spaces. There are no private seats on the train to Portland, and no one should be exposed to pornography without their consent (least of all children). But I don’t think it really hit me until that moment that many people view lingerie as something akin to porn, and that specifically, sites like Bare Necessities and HerRoom (which, let’s face it, are pretty boring as lingerie websites go) are equivalent with porn.“How absurd is it,” I thought, “that, for women, buying underwear is an ‘adult activity?’”

In the 12 months since, I’ve thought a lot about how lingerie is minmized in the fashion world. Yes you have your Victoria’s Secret and your Agent Provocateur, but generally speaking, the lingerie dialogue is limited to just 3 main topics: bra fit, shapewear, and how lingerie is ruining the lives of girls and making it impossible for them to become doctors. The rich, complex world of intimate apparel – the fashion of it, the history of it, the economics of it – is narrowed to less than a handful of “acceptable” topics, with everything else deemed “too sexual.” And I believe that stance has a profound effect on how women, both younger women and older women, see and relate to their bodies.

First of all though, let me just say that this article has nothing to do with being anti-porn or anti-sex. As a matter of fact, I don’t think the ethics of porn has anything to do with this particular discussion. And, of course, I have zero interest in vilifying sex; if lingerie makes your bedroom life better, more power to you. Rather, I want to talk about why lingerie is always assumed to be sexual, and what that means for women’s bodies. And yes, I’m aware that women are not the only consumers of lingerie, but I believe the specific kind of sexualization I’m talking about here happens almost exclusively to women.

As a lingerie blogger and, more importantly, as a consumer of lingerie, I firmly believe that intimate apparel, as the name implies, is a deeply personal form of attire.  It can be an entirely valid means to self-discovery and self-expression, and for some people, their underwear is the only place they get to truly be who they are and wear what they want. That is a powerful thing, and it makes me sad that the topic is almost always suppressed in favor of easier, more “socially appropriate” ways of discussing lingerie.

Of course, chances are that if you’re a regular Lingerie Addict reader, I’m preaching to the choir. TLA is a place to talk about the fashion of intimate apparel with a smattering of social commentary, but we’re constantly bumping up against the walls of censure and censorship. From the little things, like emails from readers who wonder what my family think of my “lifestyle,” to larger things, like being disinvited from programs or opportunities because the content of my blog is “offensive,” I am constantly reminded that lingerie is a special case. There’s room to talk about it terms of pure practicality (bras and Spanx) or pure sexuality (either as a bedroom aid or an assault upon our youth), but not much room for any nuance or subtlety between those positions. It’s as strange to me as if the conversation on shoes was limited to orthotic sandals and fetish heels. Obviously, there’s a lot more to choose from in the world of footwear than those two things!

Now I’m sure some will argue that lingerie is different because it’s worn directly on the body, right next to the skin. Specifically, it’s worn on a woman’s body, and even more specifically over areas like the breasts and genitals. And I can understand having a certain delicacy about private areas. But what I don’t understand is the titillation that’s automatically attached to women’s underwear in a way that’s not attached to men’s. Or rather, I should say I do understand it, but I don’t like it.

To assume that lingerie is always about sex ignores the role women have, the role womenshould have, in determining what their attire means to them. It reminds me of how, historically, “good” women had to avoid makeup, lest they be seen as “loose” women (a stigma I don’t believe has entirely gone away yet, though it is better) or how a woman in pants was seen as scandalous and shocking and “manlike.” It’s taken for granted now that cosmetics and trousers can have multiple meanings, but lingerie hasn’t achieved that status yet.

When intimate apparel is seen as something that exists primarily for sex, it becomes “vulgar,” and, by extension, the bodies wearing it become “vulgar” as well. All of a sudden, an exposed bra strap, a visible pantyline, or the slightest hint of a nipple becomes a disgrace. The body itself is stigmatized, and that stigma has huge consequences. I’ve had so many conversations with women who don’t even know the most basic things about their own breasts and genitals. And that kind of shameful ignorance results in damaging myths, from our idea of what a “normal” or “average” breast looks like to the myth that bras cause breast cancer. A climate where women’s bodies are seen as a problem is a climate that encourages women to be ignorant about their bodies.

Lingerie is not porn. Women should be able to talk about their bodies, to share photos of their bodies, to speak about their bodies, in editorial, artistic, or health-related contexts without being told that what they’re doing is equivalent to sex work. And again, there’s nothing wrong with sex or sex work, but self-determination matters. Women have the right to decide which communities they want to be a part of, and women should have the right to exert some say in how their bodies are perceived. We should feel comfortable talking about our bodies publicly without having to worry about being involuntarily turned into sex objects.

The solution here isn’t to resign ourselves to, “This is the way it’s always been and always going to be.” Rather it’s to discuss why. When someone says lingerie is “nasty,” what are they saying? When someone says I should be ashamed for running this site, what do they mean? When lingerie is seen as equivalent to porn and lingerie models to pornographic actresses, what’s the underlying context? Does lingerie always have to have erotic intent? Or is there the potential for something more? For a broader, deeper conversation? Let’s decouple the concept of “decency” from lingerie, and, in the process, let’s stop shaming the bodies of people who wear it.

What do you think about the lingerie is not porn question? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Reposted from The Lingerie Addict