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8 signs you are a side chick

Being a side chick usually isn’t by choice. Often times men make women side chicks without their knowing and these women end up getting hurt when they discover they aren’t ‘the one’. So if you think your man isn’t being straight with you, here are seven signs that you may be a side chick.download36

1. His house is a CIA secret

You’ve never been invited to his house for a date. You have no idea what his house looks like or where he even lives, despite the fact that you two have been dating for months now. When a guy is entirely uninterested or unwilling to show you his home or invite you into it, it’s likely because he shares his home with another woman. He doesn’t want to get caught in his lie anthere’s not enough time to hide the evidence and then put everything back into its place.woman-sad-couple

2.  He never spends the night.

That’s because his time is being accounted for by another woman. He has to be home by a certain time, or even if his woman knows he’s cheating, all she cares about is that he comes home every night.black-couple-laying-on-bed

3. His phone never leaves his sight

Men who are players tend to be highly protective of their phones. He has a password on his phone and makes sure to lock it after every time he uses it. When the phone rings, he either goes into another room to take the call, ignores it completely, or turns the volume down super low so that you can’t possibly hear a thing that is being said.black-man-cheating

4. He doesn’t show up when he’s supposed to  

Let’s just say he does make plans with you, but constantly stands you up with no explanations or apologies. If he gets ghost a lot, that’s a serious red flag.woman waiting for her date

 

5. You’ve never met his parents or friends

Most men who are proud and happy with their relationship will eventually introduce their girlfriend to his parents and/or his friends. If you have never met, let alone spoken to his parents or friends, this is a huge sign that you can’t be known amongst his inner circles. Why? Because he’d immediately be ousted as a cheater and a player.black-couple2

6. He NEVER talks about the future

Asking him about his views on the future of your relationship is like pulling teeth. Simply put, this guy doesn’t want to think about the future because he really isn’t planning one. In his mind he’s probably well aware that keeping you as the other woman won’t last for too long, so why plan on a future at all?African_couple_arguing_in_bed_GOGOCAA00446-e1324034198374

7. You aren’t on any of his social media pages

Somewhere in convenient survey land is a stat that shows Facebook and Twitter is the fastest growing catalyst for failed relationships. It’s very easy to get caught slipping on such Social Networks which is why if a guy refuses to acknowledge you on his timeline he’s trying to hide your affiliation. This same guy may also disable his facebook wall to prevent your inevitable declaration of crush on him. Typical excuses include “I’m not saying that I don’t want people to know about us, I just don’t like to air out my business”<— relatable BUT where some guys are genuine with this others know what they’re doing when dealing with a side chickstop-friends-from-asking-you-what-your-relationship-status-is-facebook.w654

8. Your relationship is almost entirely physical

When he compliments you, it’s about how nice your body is or how good you are in bed. When you two spend time together, it usually ends up between the sheets. He doesn’t wine and dine you often but instead focuses more on having you and getting out. When a guy refuses to connect with you on a mental or emotional level, it could be because he’s already connected that way with his main woman.Black-couple-kissing-2

 

If you consciously go into a relationship knowing that you are the side chick, then good luck! But if that’s not your goal, please know that you deserve and are worth much more than what he is giving you.

 

Adelaide visual artist takes on body-shaming culture by photographing 100 women in lingerie

Robyn poses for the Underneath We Are Women project.PHOTO: Robyn, a mother of three, poses for the Underneath We Are Women project. (Supplied: Amy D Herrmann)
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By photographing 100 women in their lingerie, Adelaide visual artist Amy Herrmann hopes to show that all bodies are beautiful.

Ms Herrmann wants to show that while the women may be tall, short, thin, overweight, transsexual or disabled, underneath they all have dreams, goals, passions and strength.

Just three days after launching her idea online, Underneath We Are Women, Ms Herrmann had received more than 250 applications from women who were willing to participate.

The project was launched around six weeks ago and is being financed by a crowdfunding campaign.

Underneath We Are Women creator Amy Hermmann checks some of the shots for her body-awareness campaignPHOTO: Underneath We Are Women creator Amy Hermmann checks some of the shots of the Adelaide volunteers for her body-awareness campaign (891 ABC Adelaide: Brett Williamson)

“It’s this amazing, diverse range of women with amazing and diverse stories,” Ms Herrmann said.

Candidates are asked to fill out a short questionnaire detailing the reason why they wish to participate and select an age group they fit within.

Body sizes and shapes are not requested.

Currently more than 250 women have expressed an interest in being part of the story.

“We are trying to teach people that what we see in magazines is not the real, diverse range that is actually out there — this huge array of women with amazing bodies,” Ms Herrmann said.

Erin poses for the Underneath We Are Women project.PHOTO: Erin poses for the Underneath We Are Women project. The choice to shoot Erin topless was done as a spur of the moment idea. Once Erin saw the contrast and strength shown in the pose, she chose this image. (Supplied: Amy D Herrmann)

Every time Ms Herrmann saw a marketing campaign introducing plus-size models or varying body shapes she felt like they just missed the mark of showing what real women looked like, so she decided to launch her own.

Although it could be seen as juxtaposition to attack body-shaming by encouraging women to pose in lingerie, Ms Herrmann said the photographs would allow other women to find a similar body type to theirs and find acceptance in what may not be seen as “the norm”.

Women from around the world have expressed interest in participating, and are being chosen on the strength of their stories to represent all walks of life.

“We have a lot of women who don’t feel that confident, and they want to feel that confidence that other women feel,” Ms Herrmann said.

Samantha poses for the Underneath We Are Women project.PHOTO: Samantha poses for the Underneath We Are Women project. As part of the project the women are asked to choose a word that best describes them. Samantha chose strength. (Supplied: Amy D Herrmann)

As a mother two young girls, Ms Herrmann also wanted to create a project that helped shape the world and views they would grow up in.

“Everything I do since I have become a mum is about making sure that they are growing up in an environment that I feel will make them good people,” she said.

“It wouldn’t matter if my children were sons or daughters, I’d be teaching them the same things because it is just as important for us to teach our sons and our husbands and our brothers what we are teaching all of the women in this project.”

Starting with women, Ms Herrmann hopes one day to expand the project and encourage men to participate in a similar campaign to dispel the myth of one-size-fits-all and help to curb body-shaming.

“It comes down to educating people on the different body types that are out there, not just the ones that are put in our faces,” she said.

Georgina poses for the Underneath We Are Women project.PHOTO: Georgina, a female fitness model, poses for the Underneath We Are Women project. Ms Herrmann said it was important to represent all body types in the project. (Supplied: Amy D Herrmann)

Ms Herrmann will display works of participants on her Underneath We Are Women website, with hopes to compile the images and stories in a coffee table book.